In last week’s blog post we looked at some of the warning signs that if ignored will lead to leadership failure. Many leaders either live with the regrets or consequences, or have quit leadership altogether because warning signs were ignored.

Knowing the warning signs is one thing; acknowledging those signs in your life is another. The process of acknowledging warning signs and taking action before it is too late often requires you to have a person or persons in your life who can tell you the truth about what they see in your life that has the potential to lead to failure as a leader and ultimately destroy you as a person.

Having people in your life who can tell you the truth is often difficult for leaders because of the power and influence that come with leadership. Those you lead may see signs in your life that could lead to failure as a leader, but be afraid to say anything directly to you because of the power and influence you hold over them.

Then there’s the ego. You may begin with humility, but if not held in check, your ego will overtake every aspect of your leadership. Others may see warning signs, but fear bruising your ego if they point out these issues. And no one likes to be led by a leader with a bruised ego. Such a leader usually spends a lot of time and energy trying to retaliate – openly or subtly – against those who bruised their ego.

The potential of retaliation – in great or small measure – against anyone who dares to tell you the truth will keep others from coming to you. But having such people in your life is vitally important.

So how does a leader get people in their life who can tell them the truth without fear of retribution?

First, make it a matter of prayer, asking God to provide you with a Nathan, who was a truth-teller for King David. Nathan risked his life by confronting King David about his adultery with Bathsheba. You can read the story in 2 Samuel 12. As a leader you need at least one Nathan.

Next, seek out relationships with people you know have a sincere interest in you. They may or may not be a close family member. Sometimes it is more beneficial for that person not to be a family member. Sometimes family members may be concerned about the effects such truth-telling will have on the relationship; as a result they may not always be completely honest with you.

Finally, develop a teachable attitude. When you hear the truth, take time for reflection before going on the defensive, making excuses or attacking the person for speaking the truth. Learn the art of stepping back and assessing what you have heard and see what can be learned to improve your role as a leader.

And remember, Nathans take the risk to tell you the truth because they care and they want to see you succeed.

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